Couples therapy
Couples Therapy for Relationship Patterns Shaped by the Past
Couples therapy supports partners navigating relationship difficulties that may be influenced by unresolved childhood experiences. Together with Dr. Drake, couples work on communication, understanding, and the patterns each partner carries into the relationship. Suitability is assessed individually, and couples therapy is not a substitute for individual care. Learn more or request a consultation through the contact page or by phone.
The service
What is couples therapy?
Couples therapy is a relationship-focused format in which both partners participate, with the relationship itself as the client of the work. It is structured, active, and goal-oriented, like the rest of the practice: sessions aim for clearer communication, deeper mutual understanding, and tangible change in patterns.
Because childhood experiences often shape how adults love, argue, trust, and withdraw, this practice pays particular attention to the early roots of relationship patterns.
Communication
Learn to express needs, hurts, and hopes in ways your partner can actually hear.
Deepened understanding
See the history each partner brings, without blame or shame.
Pattern recognition
Identify repeating cycles in the relationship and where they came from.
A third perspective
A trained, neutral participant who helps the couple see itself clearly.
Why the past matters
How can childhood experiences affect adult relationships?
Childhood is where people first learn what closeness means: how to trust, how to be safe, how to ask for care, and what to expect from others. When those early lessons involve trauma, abuse, or neglect, the patterns they created often continue in adult partnerships: avoiding conflict, becoming hyper-vigilant, struggling to trust, or re-enacting familiar dynamics.
These patterns are not anyone's fault, and they are not permanent. Understanding them is the first step toward relationships that feel safer and more equal.
Suitability is assessed individually
Couples therapy is appropriate when both partners are willing and the work can be done safely together. A consultation determines whether couples therapy, individual work, or a combination is the best fit.
Not a substitute for individual care
When childhood trauma is deeply affecting one partner, individual therapy is often recommended alongside or instead of couples work. The practice is clear about this from the start.
Getting started
How does a couple begin?
Reach out through the contact page or by calling (818) 516-3013. A consultation covers the approach, fees, and availability, and helps determine whether couples therapy fits your situation. Virtual sessions are available to California residents.
Related reading: how childhood experiences can influence adult relationships.
Common questions
Couples therapy, in short
How much does couples therapy cost?
Fees for couples therapy are confirmed during your consultation. Individual therapy is $150 to $200 per session, and group therapy is $85 for a two-hour session.
Is couples therapy a substitute for individual therapy?
No. Couples therapy addresses the relationship, and it is not a substitute for individual care when that is what a person needs. Suitability is assessed individually, and a combination of formats is sometimes recommended.
Can we attend couples therapy if only one of us grew up with childhood trauma?
Often, yes. Relationship patterns are shaped by both partners' histories. A consultation helps determine whether couples therapy fits your situation.
Begin with a conversation
Strengthen the relationship with a deeper understanding
Ask questions about couples therapy, fees, and availability in a consultation. Suitability is assessed individually, with honesty about what will best serve you both.